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Here is a selection of some of the emails we have been receiving from BlindKiss readers and listeners to the talk show. From: daniel rowe Date: 16 April 2004 Subject: my thoughts on blind kiss and other stuff Hi guys. I've heard about your website and show for ages but only checked it out yesturday 14th april 2004. I listened to the most recent show and had a skim through the articals. now I'm hooked! I'll be listening to the rest of the archive shows. blind kiss's probably one of the best websites about us blindies you can find. we're not all just about eye conditions and stuff like that. we've got culture like everyone else and you've dam well shown this on your website. I think like you that some of the stuff the RNIB or RNLI talks about and sells are absilute bollocks. you look in their games catalogue, and what do you find? a whole load of spiffing wooden games! the betal game? snakes and ladders! got to play that one wilst listening to radio 4 or that wonderful clasical cd collection they do! I don't think so. times have moved on a lot since the 1800s. as we know there's all the accessible computer games from Esp softworks and GMA games but the RNIB haven't cottened on yet. one other thing that racks me off about them is the talking book survace. it's a good idea mind you, but I can't stand the readers you get. most of 'em are too posh. I got an inspecter mource book from that survace. it was a good book judging from the blerb, but I couldn't stand the reader's voice. there's probably tuns of other stuff I could go on about here, but I'll be righting an essay if I carried on like this and I'm not going to. just thought I'd throw my 2 p worth into the pot. From: Mario Lang Date: 10 April 2004 Subject: spelling words, and identifying policeman Hey. First of all, you're doing a great show! Keep on the good work. I've two comments: I experience some kind of spelling deficiency too, although I seem to have most difficulty with city and location names. I think this comes from the fact that sighties actually do see city names in many situations, but we just aren't flooded with that stuff. The other thing is about police: I actually know of one case very recently, where a friend of mine got body searched on the street by police. He is blind too, and this raised the same question between us: How do we actually tell if this is a true authority? We've actually sent this question off to austrian authorities now, and am waiting on some answer. I think this could indeed be a dark area of legislation. I'll let you know if we find anything out. From: Jay Date: 08 April 2004 Subject: not bad at all Hi team On visiting the site for the first time I found it to be not too bad at all, I actually thought the listen live part was okay. Being partially blind myself, I can relate to much of what goes on in real life, however there are some topics that should be brought to the for front. Being a singer song writer keyboard musician, what a country we live in as in the UK, does the music industry think we are all not the full 5p or something, they still live in the dark ages and compare us to Stevie Wonder and Ray Charles? There seems to be funding for all sorts of silly events from so called experimental music where you will find someone chapping on a block of wood and then some prat will tell us they are expressing themselves that's a laugh isn't it. On occasions people tell us we have a chip on our shoulder, to which I reply !No it's not actually a chip its a bag of tatties and who put them there in the first place!!! Okay guys and girls keep it up not bad at all wow I am sounding like Jimmy savel now with all this guys and girls lark. All the best whoever you are reading this rather strange email From: Dan Rossi Date: 20 January, 2003 Subject: Agree disagree [January talk show] Hi guys, I was actually pretty surprised to see a new show up already. I hopped on the sight at lunch time to check out the blog and low and behold, a new show. Another great show. Nice job. On Lord of the Rings -- Definitely agree with Sara here. Damon, you've got your head up your ass on this one. Grin. I read the books as a teen and pictured every scene in vivid detail. The movie followed the books quite closely and so I was able to follow along very well. Sure, I missed the individual action going on in some of the major battles, but as a whole, I found the movie very enjoyable. Damon, you lost your sight later than I did, so I would have expected you to be able to visualize even better than myself. But maybe you are just an unimaginative git. :-) On bottle openers -- I have to give this one to Damon. The bottle opener is definitely funny. I think this is a guy thing though. [On the latest show, Damon was playing with a bottle opener he had for Xmas. When you open a bottle, Homer Simpson shouts "woohoo, beer"" On spelling -- Well, I'll have to give this one partly to both of you. I think that not being able to see print all the time does reduce a person's spellability. But grammar it shouldn't big a problem make. However, spell checking and dictionary.com are wonderful tools. I use both extensively. On bathroom trips -- Right there with ya Damon. I despise having to ask someone to take me to the bathroom. It makes me feel like I am five years old again. Very embarrassing, (with two rs). My friends don't call me Ol Iron Bladder for nothing. Besides, I think I'm just keeping those clamping muscles toned up for old age. Those sighties who just go running off to the bathroom any old damn time they wish aren't going to be able to hold it back when they get older. On farting -- Gotta go with Sara on this one. Damon, you are way paranoid dude. Maybe if you stop farting and blaming it on the dog, sighties might not assume that blind people smell. Clear the air man. Give those of us with more self control a fighting chance. [on the January show Damon was suggesting that people come over to his dog in meetings and at leisure so that they can have a good fart and everyone will think it's his guide dog] Alright, I have to get back to work before they realize my headphones are plugged into my sound card rather than my speech synth - later. Damon says: I think that Sara had no understanding of the issues from a male perspective here, Dan. Thanks for agreeing with me. It is embarrassing to have to ask waiters to go to the toilet, hence involving others in your watering habits. I think the reason why Sara didn't appreciate this is because when we see women walk to the bathroom, no one immediately thinks they're off to expel anything whereas they do with men. Men have one purpose only in going to the bathroom, whereas women could be going to rearrange their clothing, dab on a bit of make-up or even have a little cry. No, really, that's what happens and that's why Sara couldn't apreciate my embarrassment. It's a girl/boy perspective thing ... and it has made us blind men develop iron bladders like no one on the planet. From: Matthew J Date: 18 January, 2004 Subject: Spelling [January show] The situation damon mentioned about using the synthesiser to proof is very similar to many blinddies that I know online, including myself. I make many of the same errors such as 'teh', ETC, and check things through synthesis, as well as a spell checker. Have you ever found, however, that it isn't that you've spelled a word wrong, but you have used the wrong word, for example, 'steel' verses 'steal'. These are, I've found, the errors I tend to make most often, and my english teacher likes to point them out! Worse though, is that I read absolutely no braille, all of the work I do is put on disc except for mathematics. This isn't to say I don't read as such, I download and listen to many eBooks and audiobooks, but never in Braille. partly because I read with my JAWS set to 80%, and braille is just way too slow, and because it's so difficult to obtain Braille books up here [Bermuda] because of shipping and that. As you can imagine, this is not conducive to good spelling. Anyways, my spelling problems are only compounded in foreign languages such as French and Spanish that I do, especially French where nothing sounds as it truly is. Just thought I'd share that little comment. I also know that many of my online compatriets feel the same as I, and suck at spelling just as badly. PS: the game you are thinking of is vice city Editor says: Isn't it always going to be the way? If blind people don't have enough Braille or large print to read, and rely mainly on a speech synth or audio tape to listen to books and materials, then we're never going to see words actually written down. If we don't see them written down, we can only guess at how they're spelt based on how they sound else end up doing a lot more research or spellchecking than our sighted pals or colleagues. Sighties osmose spellings in everyday life just by walking down the street, seeing signs, seeing captions on TV news programmes, reading books, reading forms, glimpsing products in supermarkets for a second or two and just learning or becoming familiar with the shape of a word on the retina over a short period of time. Blindies are always gonna need that spellchecker or that 50 volume Braille dictionary - or the rather marvellous dictionary.com. From: Kurt Thompson Date: 18 January, 2004 Subject: Overhelpful crud and karaoke [January show] I was just listening to you talking about people being intrusive and too helpful. I used to Board in a house. My landlady, decided to start buying my groceries, because I didn't cook much. She did not ask me at all. And another time, she decided to paint my wooden chairs an ugly white. I kept on trying to tell her, but she wouldn't listen. I am glad I am out of that place. Oh, Sara. What do you like to sing in Karaoke. I use a monocular to read the screen. It is so od. I do not know why, but I have not met anyone who has a monocular. Thanks for the show -- Kurt. From: Jane and Sarah Date: 14 January, 2003 Subject: Rock on! Hey Damon and Sara!! Me n my mate , Sarah were just listening to your talk show and Audio bites and you guys totaly rock!! we were pissing our selves laughing about the pottery!! DO MORE PHONE ATTACKS!!!!!!!!!!!! I almost fell off my chair laughing! We were just listening to your Christmas talk show and Sarah knows Ashley , the girl that auditioned for Pop Idol!! ( Dunno why you really need to know that!just thought i'd slip it in!) Its so refreshing to hear a site that doesnt go on as if being blind is an eternal curse!!! Keep up the good work!!! And Sara more verbal trashing!! -- Jayne n Sarah! From: Jeffrey D Stark Date: January 8, 2004 Subject: The Show Hola, I have just found your show; and am sadly now hooked; as I downloaded all the episodes and have been listening to it on my commute home. Yesterday, "the island story in the December 2003 show had me laughing so hard tears were streaming out of my eyes. Damon, you have my sympathy. On the topic of dancing... all a blindy needs to know to be able to dance is the "hokey pokey"... "put your right foot in, put your right foot out..."... etc. I have a topic, subject or er... question that I'd be curious to hear your perspective on. I was having a discussion with two of my blind friends; and they are both strongly of the oppinion that blind folk are far more sexual then the rest of the world. That their blindy school experience was choked full of people fornicating like bunnies. Being myself a "main-streamed blindy"; I am now wondering... did I miss out on something here? Editor says: Well, it's difficult to tell. Shoved together in a close boarding school environment, children who are blind, sighted or disabled from the neck down are surely going to have more access to intimate moments with a person of the sex of their choosing though. From: Tony Edwards Date: 7 January, 2004 Subject: Love this site Hello Sara and Damon, This site is very refreshing. I am not one who wears a pity badge and Lord help the one who tries to pin one on me! From: Edi Date: 28 December, 2003 Subject: Cool shows hi, just thought i'd write in and let ya know i found the last few shows very enjoyable. they were a good laugh, especially when you played the cash til noise evry time the dreaded RNIB was mentioned. Anyway, keep up the good work on the shows, and i look forward to any new articles that come out on the site. ed. From: Victoria Date: 27 December, 2003 Subject: Christmas Presents Hello everyone! My name's Victoria and I've just stumbled on your website...it's great! Just wanted to drop a line to say I know how challenging buying presents for blind people is. I've been with my partner for 3 years and he only has 2% vision. People shouldn't think "Oh my God, I don't know what to buy" they should wake up and say "There's so much variety of interesting stuff to buy"! Your article on what to buy and how to wrap presents was superb, but I do have to say buying chocolate isn't such a bad thing...my man likes a Chocolate Orange from time to time...interesting yet still classy (especially the white chocolate ones!). Have a happy New Year and I'll visit your website regularly from now on...Bye! From: Jane Jordan Date: 25 December, 2003 Subject: Merry Christmas Hi Damon and Sara, Just wanted to let you know what my husband did for me this Christmas. He spent several days downloading every one of your shows, including this month's, and burned them onto CDs. He put them in chronological order for me and bought a wallet reserved only for those shows. He's going to add to the collection each time a new show comes out. Thanks for making this possible! I can now carry Blind Kiss with me wherever I go--he bought me a Discman to play them on, too! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas! Jane Editor says: Wow, do people really like our shows this much? Surely not! Thanks Jane, we appreciate hearing about this and hope you enjoy BlindKiss while you're on the move. I guess this means we have to plough on and do more talkshows then? From: LaRae Date: 22 December, 2003 Subject: Pats on the head, back, etc Hello Sara and Damon, I'm writing to help clarify what being patted on either the head or the back means. My mother is a chronic "patter". I've been the victim of her chronic need to "pat". These moments are inspired by the obviously superior thinking able bodied sighted people who want to very mildly tell you how far you are beneath them in the evolutionary scale, but that they feel sorry for you for being there. It's a dreadful form of being as patronizing as they can possibly be without having to open their mouths. One or two pats is all it takes. My mother patted me over twenty years ago, and I remember it like yesterday. I had just rented my first apartment. I was thrilled, excited and I absolutely loved the apartment itself. Sure I needed to give it a bit of a scrub, but otherwise it was everything a first apartment should be. I wanted my mother to be as excited and thrilled as I was, but alas it was not to be. I was "patted" on the shoulder instead and told "it'll be fine". Now, I know it's not a nice thing to want to punch your mother, but that was my first instinct. I have that same urge 20 years later when I think about it. I'm not the only victim of my mother's patronizing pats. My best friend at the age of 19 was a gorgeous, brillant fellow who had Cerebral Palsy. He got a pat. And at home when mother would discuss him with me he became "my little friend". There were more patting episodes, but I think you get my point. LaRae P.S. You really should put warnings on Blindkiss about the possibility of hernias, or pulled muscles caused by spontaneous laughter. The island story nearly did me in. From: Matthew J Date: 20 December, 2003 Subject: Moderately new listener - comments Hi, I discovered blind kiss several months previously, and have since listened to all of the shows on the archive. I find them extremely amusing, and I also find your articals highly interesting. Your website is unique, and it is good to see that. I am one of the only blind people currently residing in Bermuda, and because of this, have had virtually no other blind contact outside of the web. Also, as I am 14, and haven't yet moved out of the house, I find the indapendanse aspects of your shows and articals facinating as well as humorous. I also find the stories you sometimes get into about a school for the blind interesting, as in several months, I will be entering RNIB New-college, Worcester. So keep doing what you're doing, because it's hot. MJ From: Julie Johnstone Date: 18 December, 2003 Subject: Christmas show - (being patted on the head) Hey Damon and Sara, I love the show! I just discovered the site about a month ago, and I've been trying to catch up on all the past shows as quickly as I can! It's great to finally have something that I can relate to! I especially like the quizzes and riddles! (do we do riddles? - Ed) In the Christmas show, Sara talked about being patted on the head. This is something I am very familiar with! As well as being blind, I am also a dwarf. I'm 19 years old and am only about 3 feet tall. I guess I am at the perfect head patting level or something, because it happens at least once a week. I haven't really figured out the reason behind it yet. I suppose, in my case, people do it without really thinking. After all, I'm the size of a toddler, and we all know that small children are also victims of this awful behavior. But, in the case of an average sized blindie, this action could mean that the person is trying to show affection or pity. I don’t think that they do it to embarrass or belittle you intentionally. In a previous show, you discussed the strange books we receive in Braille or on tape. You said that we tend to go ahead and read them anyway, even if we’re not interested in the subject. Well, I got a book on tape the other day called “Becoming a Man.” So, here’s my question to you. My name is Julie. Does this name give you any doubts as to my gender? I hope not, but who knows!? Maybe they thought that as a teenage girl, I would actually be interested in a book called “Becoming a Man.” The funny thing is, I found out by listening to the intro on the tape that there is a book called “Becoming a WOMAN!” Oh well… Go figure. I guess I’ll give the book a shot and see if I learn anything interesting. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Keep up the good work! Julie, From Texas. PS. I loved your rendition of Away in a Manger. You guys should sing more often! From: Shawn Date: 18 December, 2003 Subject: The cattle prod Hi, To sara about the cattle prodding in the back, I had a teacher do that a few years ago and I told her, "Please don't do that, if you want to tell me where to go just tell me." I absolutely hate when that happens to me, its like they feel that they're helping me by treating me like an animal or something. Thanks Shawn From: Hailley Date: 15 December, 2003 Subject: You were my first Hello Damon and Sara, I have to tell you a story that goes back to 2001 around April I think. I had just recieved my computer from the Blind Commission here and a guy came over and trained me to use windows 98, jaws 37 and all the programs I needed to know how to use for a job I was doing from home. Well one of his visits he showed me how to download Real Player and then he showed me how to bookmark web sites and Blind Kiss was my very first site, and when I clicked on that link and heard live persons from around the world well..it blew my socks off! Y'all were so clear that had I known better and was hearing this like say from another room, I would think you were right here with me! I am still amazed of the clarity and all that ability to transmit voices through my simple home computer weather it be across town or several thousand miles away, it never ceases to wow me! Thanks for a superb show y'all do and for being so clear and making me laugh, think, and reflect. I hope y'all have a very Merry Christmas and many many more shows to come *smiles*. Keep up the good work! Hailley From: Louise Simpson Date: 14 December, 2003 Subject: BlindKiss Hi Damon I'm listening to the latest blind kiss show. Just a few comments; as regards the cinema issue, I've got a similar story. I am a Leeds United fan, and get free tickets for all their home games. I've recently contacted some of the clubs, who Leeds are playing away soon, to see what concessions they offer. It surprised me how some clubs give free tickets to the helper, rather than to the blind person. I've tried to argue that I don't need a helper, and that most clubs offer the discount to the blind person, but they wouldnt' listen, which frustrated me. The story about your clay island made me laugh. Hope you have a good christmas, from Louise. From: Caitlin Lynch Date: 22 November, 2003 Subject: Feedback, or something of the sort To Damon and Sara: I absolutely LOVE your web site. So few places on the 'net like it. (OK, OK, I haven't found one like it.) Your place isn't all blah blah blah about inspiration and crap like that. It's the real deal, and I like it. In the October show, you asked if all blindies were trashy dancers. I am. I enjoy dancing very much, but I've been told that I look like a dying fish when I dance. That is, those that are the most brutally honest tell me that. So, I tend not too dance, to avoid making a complete ass out of myself. I can't LEARN how to dance either, it seems. Teaching me to dance is a feat no one seems all to happy to undertake. My hands have to be moved, my feet kicked out in front of me just so I know which way to move them. It really is quite awkward. I don't know about all the other blind people, but all those I've seen (with my limited amount of vision) don't dance well. In that, they all dance sort of like me, and I apparently look like a dying invertebrate when I dance. That's pretty much all I have to say for this time. Looking foward to the November show very much. Oh, yes, and if you both care, I'm not European. I'm an American...New York, baby yeah. OK, I'm out. Keep up the great work...you two are hysterical! Caitlin Editor says: Funny how dancing seems to come so naturally to those sighties, but to blindies it can be a mechanical nightmare. I wonder how many terrible blind dancers out there have been told by everyone how good they are? Most, I suspect :) From: Dan Rossi Date: 18 November, 2003 Subject: The October show Hey guys, Just listened to the Oct. show. Could have done without the sanitary towel stuff, (surely you want us to continue talking about access to everything? - Ed) but something in the beginning of the show really hit home. Damon mentioned how he was feeling less independent as he got older. I was just thinking this about myself the other day. Years ago, I would think nothing of hopping a train into New York city and wandering around the city visiting friends or whatever. I would think nothing of going to a place I'd never been before to meet someone or find a shop I needed. Now, sometimes I hate just walking down the block to the local store to pick up a few items. The thought of getting on a plane, flying off to a new city alone, and having to function for a few days, fills me with dread. The odd thing is that it isn't that I don't feel I can do it, I know I can, I've done it before, but it just seems harder than it used to. My personal view is that there are three things at play here. For one, I guess as we get older, we just tend to take less risks. We tend to be more conservative in our actions in general. And, maybe going off on our own to travel into an unknown area just seems more risky now than it did ten years ago. Well for me anyway. I believe I am about four or five years older than you guys, I'm 36. The other thing, which Damon kind of touched on, but not exactly, is that I think I just get sick of everything being just a little bit more difficult than it is for a sighted person. It always takes just a bit more effort to do just about anything when you are blind. I think that after a while, it just grinds on you. If you had a twenty pound rock chained to your leg, you might not let it slow you down when you are a teenager, but you might not be as interested in running a marathon once you got into your thirties. Am I making any sense? I may have lost it with the rock thing there. Sorry about that. Lastly, again speaking for myself, I think it has a bit to do with my personal level of dignity. When I was younger, it didn't matter to me if I bumbled around a bit trying to find my way. I didn't care what people thought when they saw me struggling to find that building or doorway. I had no problem with stopping people on the sidewalk to ask questions. However, as I've gotten older, I feel strongly that I should always look confident and move directly and without hesitation. To be unsure, means I will quote look blind quote. To walk into something is much more embarrassing than it used to be. And, although I realize that sighted people all around me are occasionally tripping, slipping, and even bumping into stationary objects, for some reason it pricks at my pride a bit more. As a thirty something professional, I feel that I am supposed to cary myself with a certain amount of dignity and looking lost or unsure takes away from that somehow. Yeah yeah, I realize I am bordering on saying that being blind is not dignified or that a blind person cannot take pride in themselves, but that's not exactly it. If I were more eloquent I might be able to get my point across a bit more clearly. But the long and the short of it is, you guys, once again, have made a connection for me. You have mentioned something that I've considered about myself, but thought maybe I was alone in thinking, but apparently I am not. Thanks very much. Keep up the good work. Editor says: Thanks for this Dan, we really appreciate it. We try hard to be as honest as possible even if it's a bit embarrassing to actually say it and say what we really feel. But as you say, the more honest we are, the more we connect with listeners to the show and readers of the articles on this site. Brutal honesty and bringing out our thoughts and experiences is wehre it's at - even though we do it in a less than traditional way. Someone wrote to us the other day and said we were sick bastards, in fact. From: Jamin Date: 16 November, 2003 Subject: A new perspective Hi Damon, hi sara, I'm a new listener to your show, love it, love everything about it. Was just listening to a february 2002 show I think and you were talking about a wheelchair user who was in love with a blind girl. This probably won't help any, but it might be a point of interest. I am blind, and use a wheelchair as well, thought maybe that could be a subject you could tackle, see how many other folks are out there like that, or whatever ya like. Anyhoo, keep up the great work... and sara? your a hottie, grin. Take care folks. Jamin Editor says: If there are any other blindie wheelchair users out there, make yourself known to us. email and tell us something about your life and experiences and maybe we'll mention it on the show! From: Susanne Date: 28 October, 2003 Subject: Blind card and rocking Hi Damon and Sara, I just listened to your latest show and thought that since I don't have anything better to do at the moment, I might as well comment on the two issues on which you wanted listener feedback. First, the 'blind card' thing (oh, and before I go any further, I should admit that I'm one of those infamous sighties. I'm just mentioning that because it might have an influence on my perspective, or you might take it to have an influence on my perspective): I understand, of course, the problem with pulling the blind card and making oneself look less capable than one is. Accordingly, the strategy might be detrimental to whatever opinions the public holds about blind people. But on the other hand, sometimes one is just really tired and really hungry, and pulling that card would really make life a lot easier. I mean, really, why should blind people, at every moment of their lives, be morally required to think about the reputation of blindies as a group? Women sometimes intentionally look dumb to get a guy to help them change that tire (yes we do...), guys sometimes show off their biceps to get girls. Everyone uses what they have to get what they want, so why shouldn't blindies occasionally pull the blind card? This is just how it works. Moreover, it appears to me that a good way to approach independence issues is from a utilitarian perspective. I really don't understand why anyone should be as independent as possible simply for the sake of being as independent as possible. Wouldn't it be better to make one's life easier sometimes, especially if one and those around one know already what one can or cannot do, and have more time and energy left over to devote oneself to what one really wants to do? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that independence is not a good thing, but I doubt whether it is the be-all-and-all, and I don't understand why a blind person should devote his or her life simply to achieve complete independence, when no one is independent anyway. Sorry, I guess I'm ranting... Oh, and about the rocking: I read somewhere (and don't quote me on that, I just thought you guys might be interested since you brought it up on the show) that everyone - sighted or blind - rocks. It's just the natural thing to do, we're never completely stationary. As opposed to blind kids, however, sighted kids see that it looks funny and that adults keep the rocking to an imperceivable minimum, so they do the same. Blind kids never see that so they just keep rocking perceptibly. Thus, it might be less of an actual comfort thing than simply a sort of natural-state thing. Anyway, sorry for hitting you over the head with this monster email. Cheers, Susanne From: Mark Hembra Date: 22 October, 2003 Subject: re: rocking Hello Sarah and Damon well that old subject of blind rocking. now i've got enough sight to see body outlines so can see body movement and recently while out down the pub with three blind mates chewing over a few things when we got to a meaty subject and after a few minutes all three of them started rocking but in sequence, yes i said in sequence. have you ever heard of this before as i was the only one with enough sight to detect this phenomenon and i wonder if they were rocking in sympathy. cheers Mark Hembra From: Brian Gaff Date: 19 October, 2003 Subject: The, um, show Ok, firstly then, playing the blind card and feeling stressed etc. What people forget is that we are probably dealing with more stress for prolonged period a than is the case for sighties, and its hardly surprising that we get down or pissed off is it? its allowed i think. the problem is that the sighted world then switch into poor blindy mode rather than poor person mode and thus start talking to us as if we were 7 year old kids, rather than adults who just want a bit of tlc at the moment. If it happens in the flesh, you soon find yourself grabbed and probably crossed over roads and helped to find bus stops before you manage to explain you only wanted directions to a toilet.... It's the apparent blind stereotype that gets triggered I think. I had a press photographer here this week, and I just came out with: "Do you want me to look normal or like a blindy?" It often is better to be up front like this as when they see someone with real looking eyes, well they are real... and no dog or bad fitting suit, unkempt hair and dark glasses it throws them. I explained that i could look toward her if she kept talking and she should tell me if my eyes went into independent wobble mode. People seem to like this direct approach, it makes them less self conscious I think. Rocking -- I'm a nodder or wobbler. It is a body resonance thing I think. Its a bit like a slowly self correcting servo. Without the feedback of sight, it seems to happen without me knowing. I don't think you can read anything more into it than that. Talking tins -- Have been very well received by a number of elderly people living alone. You do get an elastic strap of course, so you can attach them to all sorts of things. You label your stack, and move it as you use the tins. You can actually also get cooking instructions on it as well if you are brief. As for labelling to start with, well, yes, you need a sightie, or you can use the old beads on a bit of knicker elastic trick in the supermarket, as long as you have an orderly mind. You cannot record cooking instructions in a number of beads though.. Brian From: DC Date: 18 October, 2003 Subject: Where can I find? This may come off as being a stuipid and maybe obvious question -- however where do I find a lets say either a web site or dating service for someone who wants contact with a blind woman -- I find it very erotic at the notion of kissing a blind woman-all of her emotions spilling out through other parts of her other than her eyes- I would like to either sociailize or go out with or for that matter -general erotica ( and I know it has to be some!)with a blind woman-if u could be of assistance as to where to start I would appreciate it! -I reside in the Washington DC area. thanks DC Editor says: Um, see the disability then the person? If anyone wants to be put in contact with this guy, then please email us. We're not expecting a huge rush, but, ya know, whatever. From: N Octon Date: 23 September, 2003 Subject: Well done! more than 2 years online now! I don't take part here as much as I perhaps should, but it's like a landmark - it would be a disaster if it were to disappear. As for blind people who break records, I want to write something one day - either a tyrade, or a spoof. I mean, what about us out there who are simply unsporty, or apathetic, or lazy, or rebellious about all this stuff - or a combination? Again, thanks for the shows and the articles. Keep it up. Norman From: Colin Fowler Date: 20 September, 2003 Subject: re: Blind speed record breakers I'll give you a tenner if you both drive off a cliff! If you want to write to us about anything at all, you know how. Email us now. If you don't want your email included on the website in this section, then please indicate. Back to home page |